May 2002
A smoker who has had enough lays it 'on the line'. With personal relationships, you either accept people for what they are, and the choices they make, or it's time to say good-bye.

A DECLARATION

To My Friends and Relatives

~ I will no longer tolerate anyone treating me badly because they do not agree with my choices in life. ~

This is my decision.

There may be things others do that I don't like, but not one person can say I've ever made them feel badly about it. There may be times I don't like the way others smell or the aromas from their cooking are offensive to my senses, but I would never make them feel badly about it with a snide remark; to do so would be very bad manners and very hurtful to that person.

I'm a good friend and a good relative. I'm a good person. I don't drink, don't curse, don't degrade others, and spend most of my time helping others; even children, in whatever way I can. I accept and tolerate everyone for who they are and never try to force my ideals upon them; they have a right to live their life the way they see fit without condemnation. And thusly, I have a right to live my life the way I see fit without condemnation.

So, if I'm going to be degraded by being thrown out in the weather like a diseased leper or have disparaging remarks made to me or about me, I will not come to visit. I will not go where I am not accepted graciously for who I am, regardless of what I choose to do with my life. I will no longer permit anyone, friend or family to treat me badly; I don't deserve it.

~ In essence, I am reclaiming the dignity which is rightfully mine. ~

snide: derogatory in a nasty, insinuating manner.

condemn(ation): 1. to pronounce adverse judgement on; express strong disapproval of. 2. to give grounds or reason for convicting or for censure. 3. to pronounce guilty or sentence to punishment.

disparage(ing): 1. to speak of or treat slightingly; depreciate; belittle. 2. to bring reproach or discredit upon; lower the estimation of.