Take as your example the smokers of Malaysia. A disgruntled restaurant patron tells the Star of Malaysia: “I would suggest to all the ulama [Islamic legal scholars] and priests to preach to their people not to use plates and glasses as ash trays.”
He does not object to the smoking itself although it is banned in Malaysian restaurants. That everyone disrespects the ban is accepted, he says, as “normal.”
Of course it’s normal. Why is this normality not accepted where you live? Because you are not defiant enough.